Showing posts with label non-fiction. Show all posts
Showing posts with label non-fiction. Show all posts

Sunday, July 10, 2011

It's Hard Not to Hate You - by Valerie Frankel

It's hard not to love this book and to love Valerie after reading it.  Heck, I think I love myself a little more for reading it.  To say that I couldn't put it down would be an understatement.  I LOVED IT!  From the first chapter this book resonated so honestly with me that I felt like I could be reading my own story. 

For the record, unlike most of her other books, this is a memoir, a story of Valerie's life as a writer, a mother, a wife, but most of all a hater of the worst kind.  It began for her in 6th grade when she was shunned by her friends, laughed at in school and generally mistreated.  She decided to put on her "poker face" and not let the world see how much it got to her.  She let her hate fester and grow, but at some point it had to get out.

In her 40's after working years as a writer, losing her first husband to cancer in his 30's, leaving her with 2 small children and remarrying, she finds that she's inherited a rare genetic predisposition to cancer.  Luckily, her tumors were pre-cancerous, but this finding set her on a journey to discover a few things about herself.  She was angry at life, angry at everything, and hated everyone.  She had to learn how to let it out and calm down.  Over the course of a year, her discussions with a psychic, a Buddhist monk and Joan Rivers finally allow her to find a calmer version of herself.  She learned how to express her needs rather than just standing by and letting things happen around her (or not happen). 

"I'd ask you to please......" Read This Book.

It's Hard Not to Hate You

*I received a free promotional copy of this book for the promise of doing a review.

Monday, April 25, 2011

The Might Queens of Freeville: A Mother, A Daughter & The Town that Raised Thme , by Amy Dickinson

The Mighty Queens of Freeville: A Mother, a Daughter, and the Town That Raised Them is the memoir of Amy Dickinson, the writer selected to replace Ann Landers.  This book is her story to some degree.  It's by no means a biography but more of stories of her life.  Each chapter is written around a theme and usually shares multiple small stories and one major one along the theme that ties them all together.

While the subtitle declares the book to be about "A Mother, A Daughter, and the Town that Raised them", I really wanted more of "the town that raised them".  I could see the stories as they were being woven together into a great movie, and I could also see someone coming along and fleshing out the stories of the smaller characters to make for a great little television series.

Amy comes from a long line of strong women in a small town.  Women, who for many generations have been used to going it alone. To the extent that the one aunt she has who got married and stayed married to her death was seen as an anomaly.  After years of marriage, Amy found herself returning back home to Freeville, a single mother.  By what seems like happenstance, but is closer to reality than what the movies want us to believe, Amy stumbles from one job to another and simply by knowing the right person gets her foot in the door to apply for the job as the countries most read advice columnist.  If knowing the right person was what got her foot in the door, giving the right answers was what got her the right job.  Amy shares the ups and downs of her life and what we learn through it is that she's just a normal woman from a small town, with lots of common sense that she inherited from all the other women in her life.

Saturday, March 26, 2011

Radio Shangri-La by Lisa Napoli

It's a true sign of a good book when you are still thinking about it a week after finishing it (while halfway into another book). I've wanted to write a review for a while but I've had a really hard time processing my thoughts on this book to get them into words and I wanted to say a little more than "I really liked this book".

From the very start, "Radio Shangri-La" felt a bit like "Eat, Pray, Love", with that vibe of journeying across the world to find ones own self.  Lisa's journey is a bit different and in some ways maybe not as profound as Elizabeth Gilbert's, but at the same time just as important.

The subtitle of the book is "What I Learned in the Bhutan, the Happiest Kingdom on Earth", and it is not just what she learned about herself that makes this such a good book and so interesting a story. As much, if not moreso, it's what she learned about Bhutan itself, and its inhabitants. 

Through a strange twist of fate meeting, radio reporter, Lisa Napoli gets an offer to go to Bhutan and help the Kingdom start their first radio station.  This is a Kingdom that rarely allows outsiders and when they do they charge a pretty steep travel surcharge.  Until the mid-90's, the people there did not even have television.  A one month trip to volunteer becomes several trips over the course of a couple of years and through her trips and her eyes we watch two parallel evolutions.  We see how Lisa changes how she looks at herself and at life in general, and we see how the people of Bhutan change their outlook on life.  Perhaps it is seeing possibilities that keep one from being happy?

Unlike Elizabeth Gilbert in "Eat, Pray, Love", Lisa didn't embark on this journey as a means of self-discovery or looking to change herself.  It was just an opportunity that fell in her lap and bored with the status quo she decided to accept the opportunity, with little knowledge of what she would find when she got to there.  In the end, I think that's what really seperates this book from the other.  While Gilbert's book is internal, Napoli's is external.  This book is less about her and more about others.  However you choose to look at it, I think it's a great book, not only interesting in the story but interesting in an informative way of learning about a culture you've rarely, if ever, heard of.

I was sent a free copy of this book from Read It Forward, which is an online service that provides advance reader copies of various books (free) with the idea that when you are finished, you pass it on.  I already know who this book is going to.

Monday, September 6, 2010

Smashed: The Story of a Drunken Girlhood



This was a hard book to read, one that I couldn't read more than a chapter at a time in even though I found it constantly interesting. I think it was so hard because I could relate. Koren's story is one that can relate to any female, I think, and really makes you think about your life and the choices you've made.

I didn't start drinking at 14, like Koren, I was 16. I can still remember that first time and how "cool" it felt. That wasn't my very first drink... my first taste of alcohol was at 8 years old. My Grandma let me taste her beer. I hated the taste and still do. I've had my moments of binge drinking and I've had my moments where my drinking approached alcoholic status. Luckily, I've been able to internalize and realize when those moments occur and change my actions before they become a problem.

Koren relates her feelings towards her drinking, towards the reasons why she drinks, the holes she is trying to fill with drinking and her attempted breaks from drinking in such a way that you feel like you are right there with her. Your heart breaks for her and you feel every emotion. I know what it was like to be a teenage girl who didn't feel like she fit in and wanted to do whatever it took to feel comfortable in her own skin. This is the story that Koren relates.

At some point we each have to come to our own and figure out who we are and make a decision to accept that person. Koren was also able to come to that point, which is what allowed her to share her story. I hope that 7 years later she is still as sober as she was when she related her story.

I feel that this book, along with Prozac Nation (Movie Tie-In) and the movie, Thirteen should be required reading/viewing for all adolescent women. These are honest stories that approach what could be in a way that doesn't glamorize it. When I read or see these stories now I realize that "that could have been me" with only a few changes. These are stories that parents should read/ watch as well to help them help their children avoid falling in these same holes.

Monday, June 22, 2009

3 Cups of Tea - by Greg Mortenson



This is a truly inspirational book, proving the ignorance is our true enemy.

Greg Mortenson set out in 1995 to climb the world's highest peak - K2. He failed on that endeavor but what he accomplished because of where that failure brought him was something far beyond any mountain climb. After getting lost in the Pakistan wilderness, Greg Mortinson found himself in the unfamiliar village of Korphe; a village not even on his map. This village treated him as one of their own and after seeing what they had and didn't have, he made them a promise. He would return one day and build them a school. The people of this region are used to foreigners making promises they don't keep so they were not surprised by this promise but they were surprised when Greg returned less than 2 years later to fulfill his promise.

In the time that fell between Greg tried anything he could think of to raise the $12,000 his research determined it would take to build the school for Korphe. He wrote letters to any person he would think to write to. In the end, his first donation came not from those letters but from other children, after his mother, a school principal, invited him to speak to her students. Those children, on their own started a campaign to donate just their pennies to Greg's cause, raising over $600. Eventually, he found other donors, one specifically who sponsored the bulk of Greg's endeavors which eventually expanded beyond just a school. When he returned to Korphe the village leaders informed him that before a school could be built they needed a bridge (how else would you get all the supplies to their village). In the meantime, he had several other villages fighting for those supplies and for his help.

It took him about 4 years from his original promise to finally get that first school built. But, after doing so, his original benefactor determined that this is what Greg should be doing and chose to make a difference with his own life by providing the funds to see that this work continued. In the years that followed Greg built many more schools, provided women's services, medical services, plumbing and just about anything the various communities of Pakistan needed through his foundation, the Central Asia Institute.

He saw first hand the changes that were occurring in Pakistan as the Taliban poised to take over and he was in Pakistan when the World Trade towers were attacked. While other ignorant Americans were putting bumper stickers on their cars that read "Kill them all, let Allah sort them out", Greg was fighting terrorism by returning to Pakistan and building more schools. He continued even as he saw his efforts being over-shadowed by the money that the Taliban was bringing into Pakistan by the suitcase full, and by the schools and maddrassas that they were building to teach, not language, math and science but extremism and war. While the American government was promises to rebuild the damage we had done in Pakistan, he was actively doing it.

As American's it is easy for us to think if they want change they should do it themselves, but through Greg Mortenson's story you see a different side of the Muslim people. A people who have been ignored by their own government, small villages so far away from their government that the government doesn't bother. It's not that these people don't want more it's that they have not had access to it. To think that $12,000 could build a school for an entire village and that just $100 could pay for the teachers for that school for a year. We as American's take so much for granted, our price to live is so high here and all these people really want is the basics of life, the things that we take for granted. This book really makes you think about those people and what they are struggling through. You realize where this war came from and how it came about and how many more people are suffering that we don't even think about because we just lump them all together as bad people.

We need many more Greg Mortenson's in the world; people who will step up and say that yes one person can make a difference IF THEY CHOOSE TO DO SO. It's easy to keep walking and pass by a person in need and think "it's someone else's job" or "if they want change they should just make it happen". It's not easy to stop and put out your hand and lift someone in need up. It doesn't matter if that someone in need is a school child in Pakistan or a your neighbor, or a stranger on the street. Sometimes the smallest thing can mean a lot, even when you think it's nothing or not worth bothering. We consider our own needs so much more important than someone else's, yet someone like Greg Mortenson and his family can make such huge sacrifices to help others. This book leaves you asking not "can I do something to help?" but "What can I do to help?" and "How can I not help, knowing what I know now."